What do you want in a "MAN"?

It’s been 3 years since I’ve been blessed to be the lady of Mr. Kenton D. and I am so grateful for the blessing God has bestowed on my life. As I think about when we first started speaking, I remember he posed me the question “What is your definition of a man?” I ended up giving him a whole list. It went a little like this:

He is a priest of his household…

He knows how to take responsibility…

He supports his lady in her ventures…

He is bold enough to speak his mind and prevent her from self-destruction…

He treats his lady with respect…

He allows her to shine without feeling threatened…

The list went on and on and on… “But most importantly HE IS A MAN OF GOD!”


Boy, did God ever give me my list. I have been blessed to have a man who is more than just a Man of God by title,  he is also a man of God by deed. The work of the Lord is his priority. I’M NOT KIDDING! If you were to ask me where can I find my man at all hours of the night, I will confidently tell you that he is at church either teaching the choir, practicing with the band, meeting with the pastor, planning a church production, speaking/ministering at a church, etc. He lives in the church yet, he manages to keep our relationship in tact. The Word of the Lord is his foundation and prayer is his shield.

There is nothing more beautiful than to find a mate who truly lives a life of service to God. Picking a mate is not about his car, how many degrees he holds, the size of his bank account, his investment portfolio or his lineage (yes people still do that!) It is about finding someone that compliments you and shares your walk with God. When I say share in your walk with God, I do not mean the same denomination. I do not believe that one’s denomination matters. It matters more that your mate share your Christian faith rather than his/her church affiliation. God is not going to label us as a Baptist, Pentecostal, Evangelical, Seventh-Day Adventist, non-denominational, etc. Your mate is to be a believer, he/she must believe that God is supreme and that his son was sent to die, he rose and is coming again.

Once the two of you share in this great hope, you can agree to walk together in this life as you prepare your households for the next life which is to come when our Lord Jesus burst through the clouds. Some may oppose to this as there are still many denominations that have adopted a “cult-ish” attitude when it comes to marriages and relationships. Unfortunately, I stem from one of those denominations which will remain nameless. Even though I have come across many oppositions, I am grateful that I chose to listen to God and follow in His path. Today, I can proudly say that we are walking in unity under the banner of the Most High God. Hallelujah!

My Verse for today:

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not on thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths. Proverbs 3:5-6



  1. annointedbeauty


    you are so right! too many people have forgotten this and are basing their decisions on material things or semantics. “Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and ALL these things shall be added unto you.” that's it in a nutshell!


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